Sunshine at last!

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After what has felt like weeks of relentless rain, storms and gales here in the UK as I walked the dogs this morning the sun was shining warming my face through the mostly still bare trees; and I could believe that Spring is just around the corner. The crocuses and daffodils are coming through and nature begins her cycle again. In spite of the weather my spirits have been good. I’m on my way back to work and have agreed that from September I’m going to do half a day a week for them of training and supervision – no direct work. The rest of the week I shall work for myself. It feels a real win win and now I have a plan everything seems manageable again. On the home front it no longer feels a Herculean task to get out of bed or go do the weekly food shop and I’m sorting out things that have been left a long time. Drinking stopped me doing stuff and then depression. I’ve cleared my study so I can have my yoga and meditation space there and a nicer space to work which feels good. I’m meditating and/or doing yoga every day and I swear some days I feel high on it! I wondered on Monday if I was getting hypomanic but I’m just joyful. I’m able to focus on every day pleasures – the taste of food; watching the dogs play; drops of rain on a leaf; cuddling up to C. I’m also being sociable and enjoying company again. In short I feel more like myself and it’s great! My brain and body were slowed up and foggy and it’s taken coming out the other side to appreciate how bad I had been.

In the 11 months of being alcohol free the onion ring of reasons why I drank have slowly revealed themselves and peeled away, and I’m now wondering if at the heart of it I was self medicating for depression alongside staying manically busy to keep the stress hormones flowing. The impact of this was living life oscillating between high octane stress and arousal, that I then shut down with booze and ramped up again in the morning with coffee to combat the sluggishness from being hungover. Every now and then it would all get too much; I’d shut down for a few days then repeat. I’ve lived like this for years – decades even. No wonder it’s taking time to adjust to living life differently. Much less oscillation; a calmer steadier state. That used to signal boredom to me; a need for stimulation; possibly a warning to my unconscious low mood was coming if I didn’t do something about it quick! Don’t let the darkness catch you!

Without drink I’ve been depressed; done some processing and finally admitted I needed help. Now I like calm and steady. I like to notice the world around me; to savour moments instead of mentally attending to whatever’s coming next. I’m learning to live in the present and it’s making me happy. Not ecstatic, not buzzing, not excited – just happy.

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  1. wow you have no idea how happy reading this made me feel. I am SO HAPPY for you. The shift in tone and outlook of this post is dramatic, and brings warmth and joy into my freezing East Coast of the U.S.A. afternoon. I am so glad the sun is shining for you again on multiple levels – and yes, yoga and meditation definitely come with their load of highs 🙂 except with these it’s ok to indulge 🙂 All pleasure is not bad 🙂 enjooooooy the spring and the many many things which are blooming ❤ xxx Anne

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  2. One of the amazing things about this blogging community is that someone will post something and it is exactly the same as you have been thinking or feeling. Reading your post was just that. I’m so happy you have come through the other side, it really feels like you are back on track. What I found interesting is you are in a similar place to me. Realising that calm and steady is actually the way to feel happy. That oscillating between highs and lows is actually exhausting and hugely stressful. We have come to the same point doing things in a different order. I took meds and although improved I still wasn’t well. Then I gave up booze. You, vice versa. The two together seem to be the important combination. Fantastic that you feel this way. Made my day xxx

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    1. Thanks Claire! I’m often surprised how someone’s post can resonate exactly with me – are we all similar souls or is it to do with the quantum energy created by the writing or just that addiction and recovery are never that different? Who knows but I’m glad to be here with you all! 💞💞

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      1. Maybe a combination? I do think we are all similar in that there is inherent kindness. Even when struggling, people here want to help and support others and I maybe that’s why we experience life and feel emotions in a similar way. I too am glad to be here with everyone. I feel so lucky to have found this. Xxx

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